The Collaborative Mindset

FAQs, stories, thoughts and articles on divorce from the collaborative perspective.

Divorce: The Forgotten Injury

Divorce has been shown to have a devastating effect on the health of people, especially children.  Why is this? And what can we do to improve the health and well-being of people going through divorce?        Divorce has been shown to have a de… Read More
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Categories: Other Musings

Divorce and Decision Making

I don’t claim that mediation and collaborative practice is for everyone, but I do maintain that these divorce methods are a possibility for nearly all divorcing couples where substance abuse and domestic violence are not issues.  Yet, I also reali… Read More
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Categories: Other Musings

Changing Old Ways for the Better - Family Court

I recently read a book by Atul Gawande titled “Being Mortal.” It describes the history behind the American medical system’s care for the elderly. In it I found many parallels between this history and the history of our family court system. The… Read More
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​Getting Your Spouse to Agree to an Out-of-Court Divorce Method

In my experience, people would choose to avoid going to divorce court if they have a desirable alternative. But I have met with many a person who wanted desperately to work cooperatively with their spouse to resolve their divorce out of court, but ar… Read More
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Out-of-Court Divorce is for Real People

Many people believe that out-of-court divorce — e.g. through mediation or collaborative divorce — is only for people who get along and don’t fight. I have heard family law attorneys that are unfamiliar with out-of-court divorce describe it as f… Read More
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The Collaborative Mind in the Age of Specialization

I am a big fan of Wendell Berry. A farmer, conservationist and an author of excellent works of fiction, he is above all a social critic. One particular target of Berry’s criticisms is our current age of specialization, which has accelerated rapidly… Read More
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One of the primary missions of Cleland Collaborative Divorce is to help you resolve your divorce in Michigan without going to court, through mediation and collaborative practice. Learn more about the benefits of these approaches.
Although Cleland Collaborative Divorce sees divorce litigation as a last resort, it may be unavoidable. In these cases, our work centers on protecting your interests while preventing costly, unnecessary battles. Learn about how we help.

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